Questions & Empathy | When Are You the Most Observant?

Today, I pulled a "Confidant" card from the Q&E deck and the question was:

When are you the most observant?

There are a few situational experiences when I am most observant.  For one, I am very observant in new situations with people that I am unfamiliar with.  I find that I will often listen and watch more than I speak, because these are opportunities for me to learn and absorb as much as I can. 

I am also very observant when I am focused on my growth.  I become introspective and increase awareness around myself by gently observing my own thoughts and actions.  I try to not judge myself while doing this.  But, I am human and there have been times when I have realized I was wrong in my thinking or with the words or actions I chose and I have judged myself harshly for my thoughts or behavior.  Recently when something like this has occurred, I have quickly been able to acknowledge, accept and release those feelings of shame, guilt, anger or sadness.  I am always learning and growing.  So, instead of dwelling, I choose to take the learnings and move forward--creating space for more growth opportunities.

I am observant in moments of emotional pain.  Here, my intention is to understand where the pain stems from and become aware of how it is showing up in my body and in my thoughts.  I do this in order to let go, so that the next time I feel this way, I am more familiar with the thoughts, feelings and sensations that arise.  As a result, the impact it has on me begins to diminish and my ability to surrender increases, while knowing that feelings are like visitors--they come and go.  In order to fully heal, this process is repeated until there is nothing left to release.

Over the last 3 years, I have become much more observant of myself and the world around me.  In doing so, I have been able to increase self-awareness--aiding in breaking down communication barriers, healing relationships and attracting more love and light into my life.

When are you the most observant? 

Share in the comments below!

With Gratitude,


P.S. If you're not familiar with the Questions & Empathy deck, here's a quick breakdown:

  • What is it?  & what is its purpose?
    • A deck of 49 Cards to guide conversation and exploration for clearer understanding and deeper connections within all relationships--self, romantic, familial, work, etc.
  • Why empathy?
    • "We see it as the ability to unlock true understanding: of the feelings present not just in other, but also in ourselves.  Some of us are naturally predisposed empaths, but for the rest of us, it's a skill that is learned and developed.  It requires curiosity and imagination, and it's a muscle that we must constantly train.  Doing so will help you discover greater purpose, inform sound decisions, build deeper relationships, and create better solutions". - @wearesubrosa
  • The 7 Archetypes of Empathy
    • Sage - Be Present: Inhabit the here and now
    • Inquirer - Question: Interrogate assumed truths
    • Covener - Host: Anticipate the needs of others
    • Alchemist - Experiment: Test and learn at all costs
    • Confidant - Listen: Summon the ability to observe and absorb
    • Seeker - Dare: Be confident and fearless
    • Cultivator - Commit: Nurture and intentionally grow